One great technique for stress relief is to manage the things that stress you that you can control. You can’t control every situation, but in many situations a small change in the way you respond can yield big results in terms of how much stress you feel.
One way is to develop a more direct form of communication with others. For example, if you find yourself spending too much time on the phone with a particular relative and have important work to do, say something like “I’d love to talk some more, but I have a deadline to meet today. Let’s talk more tomorrow.” Being a little more assertive in your communication is just one way of dealing with situations that can add to your stress level. You don’t have to be rude and inconsiderate, just mindful of your needs too.
Changing the behavior of other people is something we really can’t control. Change occurs within the individual, and trying to change someone else can cause you more stress than it relieves. If you are having problems with a colleague, friend or relative, try to meet them halfway so that you can both find the relief that you seek. If you’re stressed, they probably are too.
Another technique for stress relief is to make a clear plan for what you need to accomplish in your day. Work and chore related stress is common due to all of the responsibilities, deadlines, and people we need to answer to or take care of every day. Having a clear plan of action will help you take control and reduce the stress. When you have a plan in place and know how you will approach all that you need to do, in case something unexpected happens, you will feel more able to adapt and less stressed altogether. Now, for some of us that means making lists. If you like making lists, use a notepad that will give you a chuckle like the one in this post’s picture. For others though, making lists is more stressful than it’s worth. Figure out your best approach and go with it. And be sure to build in some down time for relaxation in the plan.
A related technique for stress relief is to do the hardest jobs first. We often work best when we start our day. If you start with the hardest things for you – you know the ones you tend to procrastinate doing – then your day gets easier and easier as you go on. At the end of the day you’re left with a feeling of accomplishment rather than frustration.
Finding ways to adapt to stressful situations can be a good way to eliminate the negative effects. Do you find yourself with expectations that are rarely fulfilled, and living with the frustration of a failed goal? The solution is pretty easy…do what you can to lower your standards a bit. Basically give yourself a break! We often expect way more of ourselves than we would of anyone else.
That said, expecting too much of yourself will only lead to disappointment. On the other hand, if you start out by setting a goal you know you can achieve, then you have chance to not only reach the goal but to exceed it. In this way, the stress of never making it is replaced with a feeling of true accomplishment.
For stress relief to be achievable, be sure to look at the situations in your life objectively. Try to find the positive side and evaluate its short- and long-term effects. Approaching a problem with positivity not only reduces stress, but lessens your reasons to be stressed further. If you can tell that something stressing you today won’t matter in a week or a month, then there’s no reason to be overly concerned. Let it go and move on.